Saturday, May 23, 2009
Thorn In My Side
Hello everyone, it's warm and humid in Brooklyn today, I am having a rough day today, my father is doing his usual daily annoyance acting like he's disabled or something, you know I cook almost everyday and he was like can you get my pills after I gave him his meal, I'm like are you kidding me get your own damn pills before you sit down and eat, he gives me a look what am I his wife, I'm his damn Son for God sakes, he really needs to do for himself, it's getting to be way out of hand now, I made fresh clams and muscles with linguini and homemade garlic bread today, not only did I cook the meal I even had to clean the damn dishes after that, can't he do the dishes I mean is it just me or am I speaking out of my ass here, ok fine he's 67 years old and yes he's had heart surgery and prostate cancer but still he's fine now can't he just help me out a little ahhhhhhhhhh, of course not why should he, he's been doing the same thing his whole life, he's never going to change, who am I kidding, he is the thorn in my side, and he keeps on twisting and twisting me, and one day I'm afraid there is going to be a big blowup fight between us, and I hate yelling and screaming, I'm a very calm laid back person, that likes his life drama free, can you blame me, there is nothing I can do about it now unless I put him in a retirement home nahhhhh I'm not that mean lol. http://www.bonanzle.com/booths/CharlesSagona
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ReplyDeleteBeing a caregiver of a recovering stroke victim myself, I can appreciate what you are going through. It is very trying at times and hard for me to find time to have a moment's peace. Like you, I continue on. Many smiles to you, you are not alone.
ReplyDeleteHey Joseph,
ReplyDeleteI have been reading your blog some here today.
I must say that being a caregiver in the past 10 years myself it is very frustrating at times.
There were times when I would think about my dad, "Why doesn't he just do this or that for himself." However, we did not know that he had full blown cancer until he went in for gallbladder surgery. Then some quack wanted to run some tests and he ended up going into cardiac arrest and on a ventilator for 3 days. I do not desire to go into the horrible details. However, now that he has for the last 3 years passed into the heavenly world I wish different.
Also, my mother was had a very serious lung disease, her lung Doctor said that she lived longer than any of his other patients and she passed away almost two years ago. I used to get stressed out at times about her as she was on oxygen for her last 3 years and had to use a walker and or well chair for the last year of her life. Now there are times that I wish they were here even if I had to wipe their A___ (pardon my language) one more time.
I would suggest to you to try to get your father some physical therapy, and you my dear if at all possible try to find a support group to help you through this hard time. I wish I had. Also, please if at all possible try to Love your father. Take him out to the park, fishing or somewhere that you both can bond together and to create some happy memories that you will look at in the future as being the best times you had with your Father.